There is no doubt that emotions run high after a break up.This is a completely normal reaction. However if you looking to win him back these emotions will work against you. Nobody ever taught you how to handle a breakup, which leaves you stumbling through it and hoping that you are doing the right thing to win him back. However to increase your chances you need a simple plan such as the one below.
You need to provide plenty of space between you and your ex boyfriend. By doing this it gives you a chance to calm down and collect your thoughts. You are also sending the signal that you are doing fine without your ex boyfriend. Yes, thats right, let him think that you are fine. Even though you are a wreck without him show him you do not need him.
Your Plan To Win Him back
Do what you can to reconnect with any family and friends that you may not have talked to in a while. Now, you do not us this time to whine about everything and unload all of your problems on them. But you should certainly feel free to just talk to them and draw emotional support from them; not necessarily in a direct way, but from the fact that you have a social circle of people that care about you.
While it is not a part of the overall plan, you may wish to ask your family and friends what they saw as the downfall of your relationship. Be cautious though. If they did not like your ex, they may place undue blame on him. On the other hand, if they did like him, they may lay more blame on you. However, you could also hear some things you were not aware of, and will be able to fix those things.
Regardless of whether or not you ask the people you know, you have to reflect on what went wrong. You need to try to look at it as logically as possible, as though you were an outside observer.
After you have taken some time from each other it is time to talk to your ex. Do not bare all your feelings at once. Keep the conversation light and positive. Meet for coffee and have general conversation. Do not ask him to take you back yet, just talk.
Once you have talked several times you can start talking about what went wrong, how you plan on improving, and the possibility of getting back together. This is the key step to win him back.
However in order for this to work you have to follow through with it. Taking action is the only way to win him back.
